Love Is…

Love is so often unrequited, unfulfilled, or even unequal. It’s pain and agony and slowly dying while its captives are looking for it in other places. It hurts and tears up the parts of our soul we hold most dear, and yet we consume it like alcoholics drunk off the romantic ideology we’ve been spoon-fed […]

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Profound Loss

It’s been nearly a year since I lost my Grandmother. She was my best friend and one of the greatest human beings I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. I had a hard childhood, growing up in a deeply religious cult environment, with very little contact with the world outside of the religious group. […]

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Not Queer Enough

I’m going to start this off by saying I’ve never fit into the typical queer community. I am an outsider and I always have been. I’ve been told I’m not queer enough. I’ve been told that because if I wanted us to, my family could pass for a ‘normal’ cis one, so I can’t call […]

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A tiny little rant

We writers work our asses off. I know some of us don’t go into an office, or work nine to five. We sit on our phones and no, we aren’t just looking at facebook, we’re writing extensive notes because if we let it go another minute we’re going to lose it. All those times we’re […]

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The Grass Is Never Greener

Trust is hard. This is real and gritty, and a lot of people don’t like to talk about doubt. But it’s there. We all have it, even poly couples, and ‘perfect couples.’ I can’t really talk about support and trust without talking about N. I usually leave N out of most of my work stuff. […]

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Fill Up On Gaslighting

As part of my year of letting go of toxic people, I’m going to talk about abusive relationships. I’ve been in more than one. Abusive relationships are not limited to dating, they include friendships and parental relationships. There will be people in your life who say all the right things, and come off entirely pure, […]

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The one that changed my life.

I’m going to start at the beginning as I’m in a reflective mood, since my eldest turned eleven this week. I didn’t want kids. Not at first. I did before, but then it all came crashing down. I was barely holding on myself, how could I support another person? I try not to do anything […]

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